Understanding
Talking to someone with this brain type requires a whole new approach. Tell them how you’re feeling, since they may not be able to tell, even if it’s “obvious” by your tone of voice and demeanor. When asking questions or making requests, tell them why you are asking. In general, tell them explicitly what you want rather than expecting them to infer based on context.
My hope is that, by reading this, you may be prepared for an encounter with someone with NVLD. If someone is not behaving as you’d expect, or seems oblivious to something that should be obvious, stop and consider. Replace your frustration with compassion. Find common ground and take the time to figure out how best to communicate.
Making the Effort
At Keywords, we want to be inclusive and welcoming to everyone, regardless of how their brain works. I think NVLD poses challenges even to people who want to be open and welcoming. You may have to completely relearn how to manage a relationship, which takes a lot of energy. But it’s worth the effort, as this person is guaranteed to come in with a totally new and insightful perspective.
In my work as a game designer, it’s crucial to get into the heads of my target audience. Make a study of psychology and neurodiversity: it will make you a better person and a better designer.
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